You are good at boundaries
The problem with thinking you’re “bad at boundaries”
By telling yourself, as so many of us do, that we’re not good at boundaries -- with coworkers, with our boss, with time – you’re digging yourself a hole and stepping right into it. What you are doing is creating an imaginary problem for yourself that you then have to solve before anything else can happen. It’s like going to the grocery store and building a brick wall in front of the door. Oops, now you can’t get in.
You don’t need to shame yourself about boundaries or make boundary-setting into some personal Ph.D. program you need to complete before you can get out of the weeds. The truth is that you are good at boundaries. Maybe not a champion, but you’re pretty darn good. Look to your life and I bet you can find some examples. Use those examples to decide that you’re already good at boundaries, because you are.
Now figure out how you, a person who is good at boundaries, would approach whatever situation you’re facing at work. Drop the shame, draw the boundary, and see how things shift for you.
I share the corporate badass way of setting boundaries on my podcast, Women Changing Leadership with Stacy Mayer.